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During the last two and a half years I have been silent, my voice quiet and non existent. I misunderstood what the courts were saying to me. Today I adjust my sail and scream so I can clear my throat and begin to unload all the turbulence I have been navigating alone.
Two years ago I was attacked by a man who thought he could use my addiction and HIV against me. He did well as I have been tortured for a long minute in my own head trying to rationalize how I got here; how I will regroup? He couldn't control me by money or drugs so he created a lie to convince the cops I was a threat to him. Details are not important. A week after being arrested and learning of this deceit, I was in a major car accident landing me in a coma for three days. Alone with no one to help me, I was unable to even do daily activities of living. I could not get out of bed for days. I asked a person to help me (I could not move); that person began sexually assaulting me daily. No one would help me or believe me. Physically, sexually and emotionally abused for two years. I always get through my trials and tribulations so all I got was "You will be ok" or "You been through worse." I hate people for being that way to me yet I still show up for those in need.
It's freeing to have opened up this past month to two women. (For the record, my mindfulness class with Kat and Audrey gave me my first breath of fresh air.) I was in a different mindset and pushed through comfort into vulnerability. This took off like weeds. I was learning to prioritize me and what I wanted. The courts are putting conditions on me - so is life. Able to breathe, I took off the mask and took responsibility. I was using my old ways to cope. This was only compounding my problems. Which I am blind to. For joy comes in the morning and luckily, no matter how good or bad, there are only 24 hours in a day. To stick to the facts, have faith and do things I have never done before.
So fast forward, I'm coming out from under this rock. This reputation, this idea I let be replaced with how others see me in my chaotic state; I forgot all my accomplishments in one bad situation. I hold on to forgiveness and gratitude. Forgiving myself for dropping the ball when so many demons and trauma reappeared in life. With my many hats I wear, including addiction and HIV, I must never lose my own self respect and voice to reach others. Only through my own sometimes pain, many times happy experiences can I help another in a like situation. For this I am grateful to be who I am.
XO, stay beautiful,
Angel S.
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Your Strength
I would like to compliment you on your strength and courage to remain positive and push through such a devastating journey. By remaining strong no one can control you or have any power over us. This is your secret super power that brought you through this journey.
precious voice! <3
Angel - so, so, so glad to hear and witness you claiming and raising your voice after such horrific experiences that should never happen to *anyone*. So relieved to hear you have found moments of mindfulness and people with whom you can share and connect. Sending tons of love and support your way <3
so much love to you!
Angel, thank you for sharing this! I am sorry for what you have been through but so grateful that you are finding the support that you need to climb out. I am sure that you using your voice and continuing to help others will forever help others who may find themselves yearning for a voice like yours. so much love and grace to you!
Sending love
I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through sweetie, sending you lots of love and hugs