My message for World AIDS Day: HIV stops with me! Please, if you know you have the virus, disclose before engaging in sexual relations. Do not put anyone at risk because of selfish reasons, or because of STIGMA , or because of being turned down. I have never been rejected, and I believe it is because I bring the subject up and feel the person out. I do not let my emotions get too deep before I disclose. I also know that a person has all the RIGHT to not want to deal with this situation or any situation! This is respectable! Many write me from all over the world and tell me that they are married, and they are afraid to tell their spouses because they cheated or because of the fear to be left. PLEASE, it is much worse if you put someone at risk because of our mistakes! We have to take responsibility in our actions. I love my partner Lisa, and I gave her the choice as I have given the choice to all my ex partners...they have a right to know. Most of the time they will respect your honesty more. It is very important to have self love as well, and know that you are worthy and not worthless for having a virus!! Once you start having worth and know how important you are and how blessed someone is to have you, you will attract people that see you exactly for who you are. Do not be afraid!! If you go through any type of rejection, you move on and understand that the person was not meant for you. The perfect one will come your way, and as I always say, "YOU TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT YOU." One more thing, I am very blessed to have an HIV-negative partner who loves me and understands my struggles, but I do not like when others say, 'Aww Maria, you are so blessed that Lisa accepted you with what you have!!!!' Ummmm, NOT! I am super blessed to have a wonderful person, but she is blessed as well to have a human being like myself. She knows she is blessed to have me, and I am blessed to have her.
One of the most important things we must learn is that we don't owe anyone anything for being with us! It is just a virus and if a person is educated, they know this!
KNOW YOUR WORTH! KNOW YOUR VALUE! AND PLEASE GET TESTED, PROTECT YOURSELF AND GET EDUCATED!
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER AND WE CAN STOP THE SPREAD OF HIV IF WE DO ALL THESE THINGS! That is why I chose to disclose and educate...and not spread this virus!!
WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER AND #HIV stops with me
Love and light,
Maria T Mejia
El VIH se detiene conmigo! por favor, si usted sabe que tiene el virus digalo antes de tener relaciones sexuales. No ponga a nadie en peligro por razones egoístas, o por #ESTIGMA, o por miedo a ser rechazado. Nunca he sido rechazada y yo creo que es porque toco el tema y sentir como piensa la persona sobre el virus. No dejo que mis emociones sean demasiado profundas antes de revelar que tengo el virus. También sé que una persona tiene todo el DERECHO a no querer vivir esta situación, o cualquier situación! Esto es respetable! Muchos me escriben de todo el mundo y me dicen que están casados y tienen miedo de decirle a sus parejas porquel@s han engañado o por el temor a ser abandonados . Por favor, es mucho peor si se pone a alguien en riesgo a causa de nuestros errores ! tenemos que asumir la responsabilidad de nuestras acciones. amo a mi pareja Lisa, y le di la opción como le he dado la opción a todos mis ex parejas...tienen derecho a saber mayor parte del tiempo respetarán tu honestidad . es muy importante tener amor propio, saber que eres digno y no eres menos.. por tener un virus! una vez que tu comienzes a tener valor propio y sabes lo importante que eres y atraerás a personas que ven exactamente lo que eres y lo que vales< 3 no tengas miedo! si tienes cualquier tipo de rechazo...entiende que la persona no era para ti la persona perfecta llegara y como siempre digo...TU le enseñaras a otros cómo tratarte y uno cosa más. Me siento muy bendecida de tener una pareja VIH negativa que me ama y entiende con mis problemas. Pero no me gusta cuando otros dicen, 'AWW Maria , eres tan bendecida que Lisa te acepto con lo que tienes!!' ummmm NO! Estoy súper bendecida por tener a una persona maravillosa .. Pero, ella es bendecida igual de tener a un ser humano como yo ella sabe que es bendecida de estar conmigo y yo soy bendecida por tenerla a ella.
Una de las cosas más importantes que debemos aprender es que no le debemos nada a nadie por estar con nosotros ! es sólo un virus y si una persona es educada sabe esto!
CONOZCA SU VALOR PROPIO! USTED VALE MUCHO!! Y PORFAVOR Hazte la prueba ! USE PROTECCION Y APRENDA SOBRE EL VIRUS DEL VIH!
EL CONOCIMIENTO ES PODER Y podemos detener la propagación del VIH SI hacemos todas estas cosas! es por eso que elegí divulgar y educar! y ayudar a detener que se propage este virus!
Todos estamos en esto juntos y # VIH se detiene conmigo,
Amor y luz,
Maria T Mejia
Thank you so much for your words xo
Hi maria
what a lovely moral boosting post thank you.
To share: I was diagnosed 3.5 years ago and thought that I would never have any chance of finding a loving partner again. I have recently started to date a few guys and the most recent one seemed such a possibility I decided to disclose on our second meeting. My instincts told me not to with the others. He was absolutely marvelous, very kind and supportive. He has now taken space to think about it seriously which is totally reasonable. For now I will just get on with my good single life, warmed by the memory of his hugs and sweet intelligence. To have been treated with tenderness and respect for a day has given me hope that I may not spend the rest of my life alone. They are out there, nonpoz people who are educated and see us for who we truly are, not a creature in the shadow of a big monster. Trust your instincts you will know when the time is right - but don't leave it until a time when he's too pumped full of testosterone!
Love and hugs
ElleJ