What's the road map?
I have a bunch of useless random facts in my head. Sometimes they live there to amuse me, sometimes they connect dots for me at odd times. Have you ever heard of an isochrone map? An isochrone map is a type of map that shows the areas that can be reached within a certain amount of time. Slightly different is a flow map: these usually show movement or migration from one place to another. Time and direction.
Life doesn't come with a road map or playbook and folks tend to think it would be better if it did. I can agree - to a point. We have them in some forms already. Think the "For Dummies" book series (Math for Dummies or Dating for Dummies), or all the self-help videos and tapes or seminars. At one point I really thought I wanted a road map for this life with HIV. Like, really, really wanted a road map. I wanted more than just "you're not going to die." I wanted someone to show me how to navigate life with HIV in ways that made sense to me and my life. It was crazy frustrating to have someone say "it gets easier" without the HOW part of that happening. Continue reading...