My husband and I have been married for 15 years. About a year ago we separated. I started seeing a guy that I've known for years. I know he is a person that has been with a lot of people. When I met him he was sick with a cough that wouldn't go away which I dismissed. We were together for a couple months. The last time being 6 months ago My husband and I got back together about that time. . Since then I have had a lot of strange symptoms. I had vaginal discharge which I went to the gyno for. I did NOT get an HIV test. All other tests were negative. I developed a rash which I attributed to a new body wash I'd been using. It went away within a couple days. I have had muscle aches and joint pain but I also have fibromyalgia. I've had pain in the lymph node areas but I also attributed that to fibro. I've had night sweats which I attributed to the fibro medication. I have bumps on my tongue which I attributed to an e-cig I've been using. The abdominal pain I have attributed to gastro issues that I've previously had. Obviously I think there is a good chance I've made a huge mistake with seeing this other person and I believe I may have a real problem. All of these symptoms I didn't even know were related to HIV I had before I got on the internet and started searching symptoms. Would I have all of these symptoms in the first 6 months??? Or can I attribute them to other things? I refuse to believe that this one mistake will affect my husband and I for the rest of our lives. I'm calling about testing tomorrow so I WILL get tested. Until then, I'm worried sick.
worried sick. PLEASE READ. NEED ADVICE
Worried Sick
Hello. My name is Tommy and I am a transgender woman living with HIV. I know the fear you are experiencing all too well. These symptoms you speak of are related to HIV, however, you won't know for sure until you are tested. To answer your question, yes these symptoms can show up in the time frame you mentioned, and sometimes even sooner. I think it is time you at least had the conversation with your husband. In the event you receive a positive diagnosis, just know that you are not alone. There are regimens that keep the HIV at bay, virtually non-existent and thereby you lessen the possibility of transmission to your husband. I'm here for you if and when you have any questions that I may be able to answer specifically.
Worried Sick
Hello hon..my name is Maria Mejia...I have been living with HIV since I was 16 ys old in 1989 ! I am now 42 years old! you have nothing to fear! HIV is not a death sentence anymore!
I will tell you that I did not have any symptoms at ALL~in the first 10 years! most people get a little sick...like a cold like flu like symptom when they get infected with HIV..but then it goes away and it is slowly attacking the immune system! a total destruction of the immune system takes a few years if a person does not know or doesnt take meds!
you have to do as our sister Tommy said! get tested ! its simple! and if you are HIV negative,,which is what I believe and you are very afraid of HIV or other STIs please use protection! and if you are! ( which I dont think) there is life after an HIV diagnosis! just look at us! for many HIV was A rebirth!
Love and Light
Maria Mejia